Help

Joy, it sounds as if your entire family has been through a lot. Your ex husband grew up in an abusive environment and has thus passed on these behaviors in your marriage and family. Children of abuse are children nonetheless, and still crave the approval of their parents, as your ex did with his family, and now as your daughter is doing with your ex. It sounds as if your daughter is extremely confused and embarrassed about her past. Many victims of abuse go through a stage of denial, seeking normality by pretending nothing is wrong. She still craves the love of her father, even though he did terrible things to her. I feel the issue has less to do with your ex's financial situation, and more with this learned cycle of abuse. You have been doing the best that you can, and all you can do is encourage her to seek counseling and by continuing to be there for her no matter what. She must accept her past and learn to grow from it so that it is not repeated. Stay strong and good luck!