A Survivor’s Story (Part 5)

By: Rae Anne Pond (View Profile)

I got a job at a place where on the second day of work I met the most wonderful man in my life. I was afraid of him at first because I’d learned to be afraid of men. But no matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t help but be attracted to him. He was soft spoken, kind, had a sense of peace about him, friendly and being very handsome didn’t hurt!

Our first date he and his two children came over to my best friend’s house. It was a safe situation because I wasn’t alone with him, my friend and her kids were there also. We had dinner and watched a movie. He rubbed my feet during the movie then took my hand and told me he was loyal. That scared the crap out of me! But I decided to give him a chance anyhow. Three weeks later he proposed to me and we’ve been together since.

We’ve had a lot of good times and one heck of a lot of bad times. He’s been through flashbacks with me that were violent with after effects that lasted for weeks. He’s been through mood swings with me and medication changes. He’s been through crying spells and manic episodes. But through it all, he’s been by my side, supportive, loving, and devoted. He has never been abusive in any way, he’s never argued with me or given me any reason to fear him. He’s given me hope and courage and he’s helped me find my faith. I know now love doesn’t have to hurt, humiliate, or cause shame. Love doesn’t have to come with strings or conditions and it’s ok to plan for a safe, loving future. It’s ok to heal and no longer be a victim. He’s my hero.

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posted: 01.17.2008
Ashville Women
I loved your story and I also was raped and beaten my stepfarther,and my mother,made me have sex with another man for money.I have been wanting to write my story and publish it,but not sure where to begin.I want it to a be a christian book,I was fortunate to never be sick or have alcohol problems or drugs.I have been married twice and my husband just left me in aug,it has been devastating.One of the complaints was not getting enough sex.I do not have issuse's about sex,just have a hard time opening up.Does that make sence?I am 36 years old and no children.I just joined this site a couple of days ago and I have gave advice to people that has or is,living in abuse situatios.I just want to ask you.DID YOU EVER,TELL YOUR PARENTS THAT YOU FORGIVE THEM AND THE ORTHER MEMBERS.I FORGAVE ALL OF THEM AND IT WAS A BURDEN LIFTED OFF ME AS,SOON AS I DID.The lord took all that pain off me and I Look back and I think that did not happen, as soon as I forgave.We are walking testimonie's for the lord.
posted: 12.13.2007
Jackie Morrow
Rae, I love you sooooooooooo much honey. I just THOUGHT I knew you before. But now, I know and love you even more. You are so strong and such a survivor. May God Bless you and Keep you happy. You and hubby both. Jackie
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