He called you, asked you out and you’re going out for your first date on Friday! In preparation for this important date, remember how crucial it is to put your best foot forward and to really make an effort to make a good impression. First impressions are lasting impressions. In a city where there is a lot of fashion and emphasis on physical fitness, I am surprised how I will hear feedback from my male clients on how their dates wore frumpy clothes or did not seem to want to make a good impression on their date.
Different types of people view dating differently and regardless of whether you take your dates lightly or more seriously, prepare both mentally and physically for your date.
It’s the day of your Friday night date. He’s taking you to Sushi Groove South and picking you up at 8:00pm. You have chatted on Match.com but have never met and are kinda getting that nervous feeling you thought you wouldn’t experience. Ease into the night by drawing a warm bath and pour yourself a half glass of wine. Light a candle, put some lounge music on ala Supper Club, and slip into the bath with some body oil (Neutrogena makes a good one and they sell it at any Walgreen’s.) The really nice thing about the body oil is that it makes your skin silky, soft, and sweet smelling… part of the perfect combination of aphrodisiac to make him melt!
In the bath while shaving, rehearse in your mind good date topics and topics to avoid. Make sure to have made it a point to have reviewed his profile (if that is how you met) and pay attention to one or two highlights to ask him in follow-up. This shows him that you cared enough to have read his info and are genuinely interested in getting to know him. If his profile highlights having grown up as the youngest of five kids, ask him what life was like growing up as the youngest sibling. What are his brothers and sisters like? Where are they geographically? Do they have big family reunions annually? Develop a good story to segue into from all of that, weaving in a picture of who you are as well. Examples could include telling him about growing up in your hometown, what high school was like for you, etc.
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