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Questions No Man Wants to Hear

By: Text in the City (View Profile)

Five questions no man wants to hear in the first three months (whether he is crazy about you or not!).

Where do we stand?
The Reason: It makes you look desperate. Men love a challenge and despite what they say, think, or how they act, they don’t want you to define the relationship. Let him take the lead now or he never will.

Do you ever think about your ex-girlfriend?
The Reason: This shows a man that you are not secure with yourself. Even on those days that your zit is huge, your clothes are too snug, and your hair is filled with frizz; you must act like a “Bond Girl.” It is the difference between making a man fall in like or in love.

Do you want to have kids?
The Reason: Again, it’s about control. The man wants to take the lead. Let him coo-coo over the baby in the grocery store. You will have plenty of time to let him know that you have already named your three future children. Take the first three months to let him say the D-word (Daddy) first.
 
Am I fat?
The Reason: If he didn’t like they way you looked, he would not have dated you: bottom line! Don’t point out your flaws to him or give him a reason to find any imperfections. To him you are timeless and flawless; make sure you stay that way.
 
Does your mother like me? (even worse, can I meet your parents?)
The Reason: His mother is the other woman in his life. Let him decide when it is the right time for you to meet her. He may want to make sure she is ready to meet you. You are the woman who may take her little boy away from her. This is a big step; let him take it at his pace.

A little further reading:
Top 5 Things Men Don’t Want in a Dream Girl

Dating Do’s and Don’ts for Singles: 25 things you should know

Five Ways to Keep Him Interested

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posted: 06.25.2008
Matt Braynard
I don't know about the other questions, but asking if you want to have kids is a first date question. Some people just don't want to have children; find this out and if the answer is wrong for you, move on and find someone else. Don't waste another date. If you can't have an open conversation about what you are looking for from the get-go (marraige/kids/life plans), then you lack the maturity to be dating in the first place.
posted: 10.05.2007
Tina Bimbolina
You missed the obvious one: "Is is in?"
posted: 09.25.2007
D P
Oh c'mon boys. You're all so sensitive. I'm sure any woman would love to get their hands on you. A good man in touch with his emotions and not afraid to answer the tough questions. Good luck finding some big girl who looks like their mom to care for you in your old age. She won't do things your ex would, but at least she's as needy as you.
posted: 09.24.2007
Brian Shacklett
Women: Please do not listen to this. It's utterly ridiculous. 1. Where do we stand?: It's good to talk about the relationship. Guys like to know where things are going just as much as you do. Just pick a good time for it. Not while we're busy doing something else. 2. Do you ever think about your ex-girlfriend?: True, but not for those reasons. This one always smells like a trap. 3. Do you want to have kids?: Can't see anything wrong with this question at all. It's important to be on the same page. Goes along with #1. 4. Am I fat? See #2. 5. Does your mother like me? (even worse, can I meet your parents?) This really depends a lot on the family he came from. You can't lump every guy together like that.
posted: 09.23.2007
Shawn Q
I, also as a man, heavily disagree with your article, however, I "almost' agree with the "Am I fat" thing...but, that's just something most men have accepted and dealt with for a very long time. Not such a big deal! In truth, as macho as it might sound, I kind of like the occasional request to be there and make a woman feel more secure.
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