How Do You Get Through a Breakup?

You are going to go through several stages but here are some ways to make it easier. Spend time with friends and family. Concentrate on YOU...figure out what you like, take a class, do something off the wall that you've always thought about, take a trip with friends, DANCE, make a change (like your hair color or cut, how you dress, where you hang out), get a second job....a FUN one, take long baths and listen to good music, read good inspirational and motivating books, take chances, WRITE, talk about it when you need to, cry when you need to, start fresh like...move to a new place, get a new career, buy a new car! And...I drank a little too! ;) You will work through it....its not always gonna be fun and it will be hard but you will find YOURSELF along the way. GOOD LUCK and keep your head up!

My boyfriend of a year just ripped the rug out from under me and broke up with me Monday. I am devestated. We had a long distance relationship and I was getting ready to move in with him in 3 months. We had a few issues, mainly about my inability to open up, but I think that was just his excuse. I've been crying non-stop for 5 days, have eaten only a slice of peach since Monday night and flew home to see my mother. I'm a complete zombie, crying all the time and not being able to get off the couch. I feel like my whole life is gone and I'm not going to be able to get through this. I just turned 30 and thought he was the one. I don't know what to do. Advice?

she has left. she wants to find herself and move up with her co. leaving me hurt, confused and financially stripped. It is gonna be tough to make it money wise for a while. She has left almost all her things still here. I need to move forward. It hard with this stuff still here.

well i'm going through a break up myself all i'm doing when i feel sad and down about that person i just listen to beyonce's man and monica's man hating songs as the days and weeks go by it feels better slowly

Like the lines in a very old but great song, breaking up is so very hard to do. When I ended my 3 year engagement with my girlfriend over 30 years ago, my life seemed to end that day. Every day since then I have always wondered what my life would have been like had I not broke off the relationship. I guess maybe just remember the great times you had together, even though that sometimes brings back hurtful memories. I would give anything now to have one more chance with her, but I blew it. For you, make it easy on yourself, 'cause no words of consolation will make you miss him less.

I too am in the middle of a unexplainable break up and to me this is the worst kind. At first I text and pleaded with him to either end it or give me a reason and I got nothing, eventually I started to search myself to see if it was something I could have done and start to heal my own wounds..ok i am lying but they will heal in due time except now I am pregnant I text and got no response. So as I get sad and start to miss him I allow my self to grieve the loss of that relationship. I get my journal and I write my feelings and that makes me feel so much better I also try and stay friends and set goals such as I will not text or call no matter how sad or lonely I get. Instead a created a text telling him how I feel and saved it in my phone so when ever I get that feeling I read the text and close it as if I sent it to him and oddly it makes me feel better also I pray to keep from getting bitter and ask for strength.

I am going through a break up now and I have no idea how to cope with this. My best friend that I love and care about the most decided to end our relationship after five years. We certainly had out issues but we always tried to work them out. In the end we kept running into the same problems and he decided to call it quits and date someone else. This has been soooo devastating to me, especially knowing that he has already moved on. Right now I cry a lot hoping that this tremendous pain will going away. I am getting though this with the belief that this is God's will and that this experience will help me grow. It is really hard getting over this because unfortunately I have to see my ex with this grl everyday, it is a hard pill to swallow, but i know getting through this experience will only make me a stronger person and a better person in the long run. I am starting to pray a lot in hopes that things get better. I believe that I will in time. That is how I am coping right now.

I sing along to angry girl songs while I drive to my favorite park and then when I get there, I start running until I'm all cried out, then I turn around and drive home. I leave all those bad feelings behind the moment I get into the car and I don't look back.

i left my live in partner for 2 years and it left me devastated..i was a battered wife and my ex cheated on me.he would beat me up everytime i'd ask him to leave the girl.so decided to leave him.i focueds on myself.i realized that not only that i am hurting my parents because of what is happening but also becauase im losing my self esteem.i enjoyed every minute that i am with my kids and let myself heal first.i should love myself first before i love others. now, i can say that i moved on already.

When I'm sad, I read a good book and listen to music. While reading the book I often dream of the women that gets the man in the end is me. I often wish that the relationhips that I have experience were as romantic as what I read. I often pray and fast that the uncomfortable feelings disappear. I also have a support network who I speak with on a daily basis. But I later learned that the only way to get over a break is to go through the feelings. I also feel towards the end that it's their lost and not mine.