How Do You Get Through a Breakup?

Writing is great for healing. What ever your circumstances were for the break up, your feelings are real and writing your thoughts, holding nothing back will bring clarity. If you are angry, write a letter to your ex, again holding nothing back. Don't send the letter, instead rip it into pieces and throw it into the air and when you do release your angers and hurts along with the pieces of papers as they blow away...Time will heal and it will also give you an understanding of what you want and don't want in future relationship and I promise there will be future ones. With each relationship we learn and with this we grow. Keep your faith and know that if you seek your higher power, he will take the pain from you. The thoughts you had while riding the train would be a good start for your journal of your life path journey. HUGS TO YOU :>)

I went through something similar except mine was my spouse . we had been having problems and lost communication and over a two week period he was moving out without saying a word and I heard him getting the last of his things and he left and did not return . I went to the restroom and on the sink basin was a letter telling me he was tired of the marriage . how did I get through well I believe everything has a expiration date I was told rejection is Gods protection and I live each day with peace because someone was looking out for me..God

I've gone through this recently and I have many good friends who gave me great advice and who listened attentively. This helped immensely but I still had to go to sleep at night alone and it still hurt. Accept that there is no easy way. Many combinations of things may help. Try them all and see what works for you. One night it may be one thing and the next night it may be another. There's a tendency to only look at the good things about the past relationship. But there were things that didn't work obviously. Think about those things more and in time, you'll find that you hurt less and you move on and you find other people that interest you. It's okay to grieve a little. It's hard when someone who was so close to you, who you spent so much time with, is now gone. That leaves a big gap in your life and it takes a little time to fill that back up. But start doing that, fill it up with everything you want to do and try. It's quite an opportunity when you think about it. Best of luck.

I have to admit my relationships have always been short yet painful; nothing compared to the trooper listed below (my prayers go out to you). No matter how long though, I inevitably care for each guy and know that they were in my life for a reason-- thankful at the same time that God provided me a way out too! Each time I've been blessed to realize something more about myself, but I've finally taken the initiative to stop the pain-train! I know God has someone wonderful out there for me, and with his guidance and strength I know'll my choice to choose beyond the ways of the world will be more than worth it for my ultimate relationship--marriage! When there are days of temptation or fear, I know that setting my sights higher than the flesh will reap their glory in God's will for my life.

Sorry I almost ran out of room before, But reflect back upon the relationship.Dont dwell. Figure out what went wrong.And learn to let go. If u hold on to anger to long,it eats at your soul. And lifes to short. Be happy,everyday,wake up and force yourself to smile. Remember this too shall pass. And dont rebound into another relationship right away. Its not fair to you or the other person. Relearn who you are,and what u want the sky is the limits. best of luck and much happiness the next time around!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Awh to new beginnings,and a brand new life.Ha-Ha,so i tell myself everyday.Its been 6 months,since i split from my spouse,of 14 years. My life is going down the tubes so drastically,its not even funny. He lives about 9 blocks from where me and our children live. Its Soooooooo hard, I'm disabled,on a very low amount of $560. amonth, for my SSI. He's not paying child support Yet, It's been in the process for over 5 months. So im at my wits end. But the beginning was the hardest. I have very very few friends, so thats a help with my close friends, im able to vent and cry. I wont feel sorry for myself. Im 42,with 3 children at home. Im unable to work. With my meds. i cant drink, but im really close to go having a few! This is a new chapter your starting.Live life to the fullest everyday.
If there was something u wanted to do.And he didnt support u. Go do it. Take a class.Or so visit a nursing home,help with underprivleged children. best of luck. smile smile smile.

AFTER A BREAK UP I FIND MYSELF REFLECTING ON THINGS THAT HAPPENED IN THE RELATIONSHIP, AND FINDING WAYS TO MAKE SURE THOSE SAME THINGS DON'T HAPPEN IN THE NEXT ONE. I EXPRESS MYSELF FOR ANY SITUATION THROUGH WRITING POETRY, SO I WRITE SOME OF THE UGLIEST THINGS I CAN THINK OF ABOUT THE GUY AND THAT HELPS. ME AND THE GIRLS GET THE MARGARITAS FLOWING, VENT, AND ENJOY EACH OTHERS COMPANY AND ADVICE.

Two things helped me immensely when I got divorced two years ago. First, I wrote a lot of really maudlin poetry and just completely embraced all of the emotions that I was experiencing. Once I'd gotten that out of my system, I got a good fire going in the fireplace and I took all of the letters he sent when we were dating and fed them one by one into the flames. As I watched them curl up and disintegrate into ash, I sang every song I could think of with any reference to fire in it. "Disco Inferno," and "Fire" by the Ohio Players worked particularly well. Any song about female empowerment will do the trick -- "I Will Survive," "I am Woman," whatever works for you. The feeling I had was that those letters contained all of the ideas that he had about who I was or what role I played in his life. By destroying them in a sort of cleansing ritual, I was saying "Now it's my turn to define myself and create my own role in my own life." The next morning, I was ready to get on with it!

It sounds a little masochistic, but I listen to all the songs that remind me of him until I can't stand the songs anymore. Then I delete them from my playlist, delete all his emails and delete his number from my phone. Then I do what Brie does: get really drunk, flirt, order a pizza, and call it a day.

Maybe it's not the best way to cope, but it sure is a fun evening: going out with your friends, having about five martini's while you madly flirt with whomever will give you two seconds of their time, drunkenly blubbering and bitching while your friends pat your head in the cab ride home, eating three slices of pepperoni pizza and then falling into a booze and cheese induced coma. Ah, to be young and in love.