Whether you’re looking for romance or are already in a relationship, the seven secrets below are essential in having a healthy, intimate, romantic relationship. If you’re interested in getting great results, demystifying the dating process, and being the best you can be in a relationship, you’ve come to the right place.
1. Understand Your Role in a Relationship
There are two roles in an intimate romantic relationship. One is the masculine. The other is the feminine. Masculine people get what they want by asking and going for it. Feminine energies get what they want by honoring their feelings and saying “no” to what they don’t want.
I call these roles passengers and drivers. If you have two drivers, you’ll fight over the wheel. If you have two passengers, you’ll never get anywhere. So pick one and stick with it for at least the first two months. This way when your relationship goes off track (and believe me, it will) you can go back to your original “role” and get back on course.
2. Commit to the Relationship, Not the Person
Do your part and hope your partner does theirs. People are imperfect human beings. We all screw up. Therefore, commit to the relationship and not your partner. Your partner will disappoint you at times. (Sad, but true.) So it’s a good idea to have at least two reasons to stay in the relationship when you want to “kill ‘em.”
When I find myself asking, “What the (blank) was I thinking when I married this jerk?” I remember that Lorenzo cooks and I get free French and Italian lessons. For me, that’s good value.
3. If he/she is 51 percent ... Keep them
You’re probably thinking, “Wow. That’s low.” I hope you find someone who’s greater than 51 percent, but are days when your partner won’t rate a zero! (Hopefully those days are few!) In the overall package, if your partner is more “good” than “bad,” you’ve got a good deal. Recognize it and appreciate it.
4. Never “Trust” Anyone
People are SHOCKED when I tell them I don’t trust my husband. And it’s true, I don’t. (In fact, I don’t trust anyone.) My husband is human and humans say one thing, then turn around and do something different. (You know, like “I’m going to get in shape.” Then a month later, you still haven’t gotten to the gym.)
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