Spice Up Your Love Life Through Online Dating

Regrets, I guess we all have a few. And, after spending the past thirty days trying to find romance through a popular online dating site, my biggest regret is not going to modeling school when I was a teenager. My sister did and, to this day, she loves to have her picture taken. She looks poised and confident, shot after shot. Meanwhile, my muggings for the camera look more like are more deer-in-the-headlights and “can we get this over with quickly, please?”

Good photographs are very important in the world of online dating. Especially for the ladies, with men being such “visual” creatures and all. And, it doesn’t stop there. Second to the “perfect pictures,” there’s also the profile—describing yourself and what you’re looking for in a way that doesn’t come off as too demanding or—heaven forbid—boring. 

Apparently I’m not the only one who’s struggled with pulling together the perfect online persona. A recent time in the Los Angeles Times Magazine talked about how singles are outsourcing their personal lives: hiring an expert to write their online dating profile, and even enlisting the services of a dating coach to take to dinner so they can point out quirks that are (in their opinion) keeping you single. 

But, before you post that profile, don’t underestimate the importance of being mentally and emotionally ready to find love online. You have to believe it’s possible to find your sweetheart in cyberspace. After all, whether it’s finding true love or a good parking spot at the mall, you have to believe in order to receive! I’m open to the possibility that non-believing is what may have prevented me from finding love online this time around. I admit it, I prefer to meet dates thru friends, work, or in daily life. In other words—I prefer my dates to come by referral.

If you’re feeling adventurous—and are ready to venture online in the name of love, here are some tips from my pal, Lisa Johnson Mandell. Lisa spent years dating online before meeting her husband, James, through a site for Jewish singles (and Lisa isn’t even Jewish!). Lisa is also the author of How to Snare a Millionaire, and dishes out relationship advice to wealthy bachelors on the new Bravo TV show, Millionaire Matchmaker.