The beginning of a new relationship is sooooo wonderful. Everything’s fun and exciting (even a tad scary). But it’s such a RELIEF to FINALLY find someone you’re attracted to and can connect with.
Aaaahhhh ...
This is also a time when a man ... when he’s REALLY into a woman ... can call or e-mail or text her constantly.
“I really like him,” my client Jane whined. “But I don’t know. It’s just ... he’s calling me all the time.”
I sensed that even though Jane was flattered, she was a bit annoyed. Like the guy was soooo into her that she was actually bothered.
Guess what, girls?
That’s a GOOD thing!
You WANT a guy to keep calling and texting and e-mailing. It’s when he STOPS that you start worrying!
Most guys are single-focused—and more simple-minded than women. (This is not an insult ... it’s the way nature made us.)
When a man is REALLY into a woman, he pretty much targets his attention towards her and wants to be with her. Constantly. That means ... most of the time.
Many women don’t get this. (I didn’t.) (Way back when.)
Jane was overwhelmed by so much attention, that she did the exact opposite of what she really wanted to happen.
Jane thwarted her man’s pursuit by not taking his calls or not being available to see him and (arrrrggghhhh) telling him that he calls too much!
And guess what?
How to Keep Him Calling Back
By: Cherry Norris The Dating Director (View Profile)
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Be Careful : I had a guy call,txt,e-mail a lot !! He was sooooo into me!! He was not really my type but, I thought if he is so into me - he must not be so bad. I was with him for about 6 weeks... and I really fell for him! Guess What?? He had a girlfriend!!! Yikes-- He started getting distant and seeing me less. Then I heard through the grapevine he was "hot & heavy" with someone.
I read and liked this story, but I have a question. What if you are the one doing most of the calling? He calls me but I know I do the most calling is this a bad
YAY..> i think this comes with age. I find that in my mid 30's now, I'm looking for someone to show me that kind of attention. After years with the "jerk" or not appreciating the sweetheart, I'm ready to find an attentive man! Great article!
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