I never said that unattractive or "ugly" people where the only types of singles to use online dating. If that's what you took from it, that's unfortunate because that's not what I was implying. Hey, I'M on Match.com and I would never consider myself "hot."
All in all, I'm underwhelmed with online dating. Both from personal experience and reading letters and talking to friends. Don't get me wrong, I've had some fun dates, a few flings and a lot of great sex from using online dating. But the more I talk to people and the more I research it and the more I use it, the more disappointed I grow.
After reading God knows how many profiles in the last 3 days, the guys that I would consider universally "hot" all have this ridiculous laundry list of requirements. Which leads me to think that maybe those "hot" guys (like many "hot" women online) think that, because they back packed through Europe and can cook an 8 course meal and work out 5 times a week, "deserve" a certain type of match. They want to total package because they think, based on their achievements, they are the total package. Know what? You could put 20 profiles in front of me, let me read each one individually and view their pics, then scramble them up and match up the photos with the wrong profiles and I still wouldn't be able to tell the difference. It's the same stuff over and over again. Never in my life have I come across so many men who have traveled to Africa and Asia and Europe. Not just one of those countries. All of them. They all have the same interests - working out, watching CNN, good dive bars. They're well educated, they're cultured, they're good looking...so why haven't these guys met anyone? Are their standards are too high? If you're that accomplished and that well rounded, then why are you having a hard time meeting someone? It makes no sense to me. It also encourages me to believe that, at least in NYC, you can never be smart enough, or pretty enough, or rich enough, or thin enough. It's insane. And it's exactly why there are so many single people out there. We're all looking for that bigger, better thing instead of appreciating what we have when we have it.
