How to Understand Men Better

By: WomanSavers (View Profile)

It does not mean your man is incapable of communicating with you, it just means that he would rather process the situation before saying anything. More often than not, a man will need to come up with something concrete to say or a specific solution to a problem, rather than just discussing several different options with you. Though women think about our problems out loud and wish to discuss or talk about every aspect of an issue, does not mean men have to do the same. When it comes to communicating, give your man some space. When he is ready to talk to you about an issue, permit him to approach you. Remind yourself that you are two different creatures and when it comes down to it, men and women have a very different style of communication.

Do not be offended when you do not get exactly the response you would expect or desire. Men are not easy to figure out. The next time you are upset with your guy, try to think about it the way he would. Simply to acknowledge that men think in different ways would lift off a heavy burden from your shoulders. The next time he reacts differently to what you would expect; do not sweat the small stuff. It doesn’t mean that he didn’t care. He just thinks differently than the way you do.

By Relationship Expert Stephany Alexander

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posted: 12.03.2008
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A good look at the differences in men and women is "The Female Brain" by Louann Brizendine. The simplest way to put it is that the amount of brain women commit to relating and communication men commit to sex and vice versa. A man is most vulnerable directly after sex and will be most open then. Men discuss action points, not feelings. Men typically feel three emotions: anger, joy, and love. Outside of these, culture and women are biased against men expressing emotions. Men don't want to come to you and express their doubts about their career for instance, because from that day forward he will always be questioned for his decisions and the doubt will infect his woman and the relationship. Men need two things from women, sex, and admiration. We cannot put ourselves in a position of expressing insecurity, only to have you beat us over the head with it every time you are emotionally volatile. Women rely on men to be the the rock to their waves of emotion. http://alphadominance.com
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