It’s been 6 years since I lived in a polygamy marriage. I am a Muslim and I truly belief in my religion, being a Muslim but I must admit that I am not practicing it 100%. Some ‘Ulama’ will probably say I’m not.
If you asked me whether it is ‘okay’ to be in a polygamy marriage, sharing a husband with other women, the answer will be ‘not really okay.’ Then you will ask me why I’m still in it if it’s not ‘okay’, I will tell you that it is better than to have no one to share a part of your life with. Nowadays, I hear many men having affairs and keeping women besides than keeping their wife too.
Every time I want to give up on this marriage, something tells me to stay at least a bit longer, just maybe something better will come my way. Instead of me waiting for my husband in the middle of the night wondering where and who he’s with, this time I know exactly where and who he’s with. I used to sit till 4 a.m. staring out the windows wondering and waiting for my husband to come home safely.
I also learned that to stay married and be at least peaceful is to learn to let go. My marriage is far from perfection but at least I know my shortcomings and I hope that my husband will remain faithful to his responsibilities. My late father had 3 wives. They’re all friends to this date. I wish I can share the moment when I saw both my mum and step mum sitting together chatting away at my younger brother weeding last week. It’s picture perfect!
It was not easy at first but I will try to be happy with what I have. As for tomorrow, let’s pray it will be better, whatever it may be.....
