I Never Thought Life Could Be This Hard

Hi Krista: You can't change anyone...only yourself. Life can be hard and sometimes we don't know the answers. Do what is right for you and your baby. If he can't get over it...that's his choice. Perhaps you need to accept it and move on...with your baby. That's what I would do...and have done a few times...You'll find the inner strength you need and answers will come as you go. Many of us make poor choices during our life time. Be the best mom you can be...be responsible for yourself and your baby and take the next step...don't stay in a relationship that isn't good for you, and most likely won't be for your baby. It will just make your life harder than it is now. Take care.

Wow, I totally disagree with the other poster. If you want this child: have it. Cherish it. Give it all the love this man can't receive from you. A "father" is not a sperm donor; a father is someone capable of opening his heart and being a role model. I think you've chosen poorly, but that doesn't mean your child has to suffer. Be the best mom you can be and one day, you just might find someone worthy of being this little one's Dad.

It is a little hard to tell, so you were going out for 3 months, while living together but you weren't going out? Then, you slept with someone else, didn't tell him and then after you starting calling yourself boyfriend and girlfriend he found out? Anyway, to me the larger issue is that you haven't been together long enough to have children, you don't sound old or responsible enough to have a child if you will excuse me for saying so. You cheated on the man you want to be the father of your child, and he is going to punish you the rest of your life for it. That is the bottom line. You cheated, he does not trust you and frankly why should he? Your excuse is the worst one unless you are now in AA and have sobriety -0- otherwise what is the point? You might get drunk again and then who knows.... Have an abortion, leave the boyfriend and start over. This time, don't cheat and then expect to be treated with respect.