Help Me!

By: BUTTERFLY (View Profile)

I just recently got married this year and now all I want to do is to get out. I met my husband eleven years ago. He had just gotten out of jail (Pen.). Of course I did not know that but I felt as though that everybody needs a second chance. During the first years things were ok but then I found out he had other women on the side. I never let that bother me because he was not living with me. I did have arguments with other women but I had to think back that he is the one I should have been arguing with. But as the years passed somehow we came through it and I thought things were getting better but boy was I wrong … Once he lost his job things went down hill … Being though he was not working I was the one working. And all he would do was call me on my job and just argue. Most of the time I would hang up the phone and then that really set him off.

Well now I am married to him and things are not good … All I want is out … I don’t think that he even likes me … let alone love me or even in love with me … most of the time I hate myself … I have lost over forty pounds and now he think that I am looking for someone and I am not. I lost the weight for health reasons … I had a heart attack about three years ago and now have diabetes so I have to take shots three times a day … My husband does not care … I pray more than my share … but …

Sorry will finish.

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posted: 01.15.2008
Kel
Wow, I can only imagine how tired you must be holding up both your side and his side of the relationship. I think women want the best to happen, put our gut instincts aside and try try try. However, there comes a point when just to step back from the situation and say, ok...this is hard, I need a partner and a contributor and set some expectations and guidelines for success. You know, yourself, its not working, but you feel guilty, but remember it is not just you contributing to what is a failing (failed) partnership. You cannot forget that your health, physical and mental well being are all just as important to you and have to be a priority and that is a given. Write down on 1 side of paper your wish list of desires for a good relationship, then on the other side, write the true reality (and don't allow for any excuses). It is always ok to reevaluate your life and works towards solutions. But if you are the only contributor in a relationship to succeed it will 100% fail.
posted: 01.07.2008
Brandi
Girl! I could just imagine I'm not married but in a similiar situation the only thing is we could pray that things will get better in both of our relationship.
posted: 01.06.2008
Cheryl Page
i completly understand where you are coming from. There is hope. i was in a simular sitiation and i somehow found the courage to leave,, have faith, my friend. Good luck to you.
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