Fourth, provide a lot of appreciation for his efforts, not just the results. Reward him by letting him make you happy and show it.
How to Set Up your Man to Win
Providing quality information to the men in your life will help your man succeed by making you happy, which is exactly the outcome he’s hoping for. The following information will work for birthdays, holidays, and in most situations where a man will be providing for you.
First, think about Valentine’s Day and ask yourself, “What do I need that day?” In other words, “What is the thing that, if it doesn’t happen, will leave me upset?” Try to remember it is just one day. Don’t have it determine the future of your entire relationship. If you are single, it might be, “I need to spend time with the man I am dating.” Speaking for myself, as a married person, I need to be treated by my husband as his girlfriend and lover, not the mother of his children. If you are not dating, it may be that you need a male friend or relative to tell you how special you are to him.
Second, ask yourself, “After I have what I need, what would make me happy?” Again, it might be quite simple. For me, it is a personal message in a card and a small amount of really good chocolate! (Don’t ask, “What do I want?” This question will lead you into the sea of fantasies and no-win expectations.)
After you have figured out what you need and what will make you happy, there are two more very important steps.
Third, honestly consider if the man in your life can reasonably provide these things. Is money tight? Are you expecting him to spend a lot on one day? Is February 14 a workday? Does he express himself through actions instead of words? Here’s a big one: Are you expecting him to do what a woman would do?
You may need to modify your desires to place them within reach. This is really important. Telling him something that is out of reach will just make him fail sooner.
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