The Secret Sex Lives of Lesbians

By: Natalie Josef (View Profile)

I can see the gears grinding in their minds … how … I mean, if there is no penis … ummm … but, how? Listen people, lesbians fuck—women like to be penetrated, it doesn’t matter if they are gay or straight. Most lesbians fuck, and they use their fingers, and it’s not nice to have long fingernails when doing that. Got it? I don’t have to draw you a map, right?


Lesbian Oral Sex.

I think most people can wrap their minds around the concept of oral sex—even straight folks do it, even if it can’t compare to how well lesbians can do it (sorry guys!). When people think of lesbian sex, I am pretty sure this is the first thing that comes to mind. But this is not something that you do on a first date with someone you hardly even know. Sure, some people have no boundaries, but as a rule, this is not the immediate go-to.

Oral sex is very intimate. It can enhance strong feelings that already exist between two people. Lesbians don’t drop down on every girl they meet. They save that for monogamous relationships and for people they love (or think they love).

And real oral sex is not lesbo porno tongue. It’s not a race and it’s not an attack. I really listen and pay attention to what a woman’s body is telling me—women will show you through body language what feels good. Slow down and take notice!


Lesbian Bed Death.

You have probably never even heard of this before, but it is common knowledge in the lesbian world. Basically, as time goes on, lesbians are known to not have sex as much, and ultimately get to the point of not having sex at all. I know this happens in marriages and in the straight world, but it is very common in the girl world. Many couples just end up cuddling and spooning, and hanging out with their dogs, I guess. This hasn’t happened to me, so I am just an innocent bystander reporting this to you.


The Clitoris.

I often wonder how many straight women go through life without ever having an orgasm. It makes me sad that so many people are in such denial about what causes women to come. It is possible through straight penetrative sex, but rather unlikely, considering a woman actually orgasms through her clit, not her vagina.

There is a point during penetrative sex where a woman feels like she is coming, or feels like she is done having sex, but technically, there is nothing orgasmic about the vagina. A woman can come from penetrative sex, but it is because a man’s pubic bone is rubbing against her or because he is stimulating the clitoris in some way.

Think about it like this. A man comes from stimulating his penis by friction. The way he masturbates is similar to the way his penis is stimulated in the vagina. When a woman masturbates—not a porn woman, but a real woman—she doesn’t come from fucking herself, she comes from stimulating her clitoris.

The clitoris has as many nerve endings as the penis—they are congruent.

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posted: 08.05.2007
Fiona Loren
I can't believe you did this, but I am so glad you did. I know it took a lot of courage and I think you are wonderful for taking the time and for being so honest about a subject, which straight friends are constantly asking me about. They don't come out and ask how do you do it? but they pussy foot (no pun intended) around the subject. BTW, I can recommend lots of boob play.
posted: 07.16.2007
Donna Hopkins
This was funny and informative. I find it hard to believe how little the straight world knows about the lives of lesbians period, much less about our sex lives. We really need more exposure in the media. I think lesbians are still pretty invisible. Thanks for writing this.
posted: 06.19.2007
Emily V
I absolutely loved it, and as a new lesbian coming out, my friends are so curious about how it's done. Im so e-mailing this to every last one of them they too will get a kick out of it.
posted: 05.22.2007
Juliette Betancourt
If I wasn't already spoken for, I have to admire I'd be tempted to try these marvelous things you describe. Thanks for de-mystifying the concept... and perking my senses.
posted: 05.17.2007
Jodi Freedman
What fun! Great to see a good old-fashioned lesbian sex story here! It made my day, thanks! Though I must say, that the scissors image, well just the whole ideas of them and a woman's beautiful body, is not a turn on. I understand the visual, but seems more like a pinwheel as an image is more, um, three dimensional.
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