Q: Is there anything you miss about being gay? Do you ever have second thoughts?
A: There’s nothing I particularly miss about “being gay,” it’s not really different from my life now, I just fell in love with and chose to marry a man instead of a woman. Before I got pregnant and married Dave, I had gay and straight friends, and that hasn’t changed. I can’t say I’ve ever had second thoughts.
Q: What do you think of the big ex-gay movement? Do you think that your experience is unique or common?
A: I sincerely hope those involved in the “ex-gay movement” are happy with their life choices, Christian or non-Christian. I think it’s quite common in our society to change your mind halfway through your adult life. I knew of many lesbians who came out after being straight and married to a man for years. I think this topic goes either way—people make a decision in their late teens or early twenties and change their minds when they hit their thirties or forties. Mid-life crisis is a pretty common term, right?!
Q: In your words, describe the transformation that you went through.
A: The short answer is this: I finally made a commitment to one person and to God and I’m committed to seeing it through until the day I die. Infidelity or divorce are not options.
Q: Are you happy?
A: I have no words for how happy I am and how happy Dave, Bella, and above all, my Lord and Savior make me!
I have learned a lot from Amber and David, but mostly what I have learned is that love—whether for your partner, your friend, your child, or your God—is never black and white. Love transcends everything—sexuality, expectations, and yes, even Jägermeister.
Photo courtesy of Amber
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