Non-Monogamy: In Other Words an Open Marriage (Ours That Is)

By: Dwight Hardtigan (View Profile)

Well later that night, when we both went to bed a little earlier and we had what I would have to say was some REALLY good sex. Before going to sleep I asked her, even though I had a pretty good idea that she really enjoyed having cyber sex, I wanted to hear what she really had to say and yes I did wonder how often she was playing with her dildo, because it seemed like she never did, well not that I knew of that is. And as I thought she still felt nervous about it but she did say that she liked it and it was fun but weird at the same time, and she asked me how I knew of cyber sex and what to do and have done it before while she was at work. I explained to her that I was asked several times but never did it and the reason I knew what it was because I googled it (remember Google is your friend) when I was asked, but I never did because I did not want her to think I was doing anything behind her back and in all honesty I did not really know how to approach her with it without sounding like a pervert. Or even worse that she would think that she was not satisfying me in bed, that I needed to go and have cyber sex with some other woman, so I asked her what made her do it seeing as she did not know what it was really.

Basically her answer was, to see what it was like, but she did also say that it just is and was not like having the real thing and even though she did have some fun, it was not something that she would do all the time or any more. She said that playing with her toy was okay once in a while or when I was not around, but again it just is not the same thing as the real thing. Which I did understand was how she was feeling, because of her up-bringing and the way her father and mother raised her, it’s not that she was sheltered or anything like that but more on the lines of having protective parents as well as two brothers that were protective of her. Her parents were old school for the most part, marriage first then sex, and I could tell that she was not the type of girl to have been around the block and sleeping with all kinds of guys, her parents did keep a watchful eye on her but yet gave her space to do what she wanted as long as she did not get hurt.

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posted: 04.21.2008
Sadie
I liked your story, Dwight! And, like Jenny Block, I too am loving that the concept of Open Marriage is coming "out of the closet". Let's all keep writing stories about Open Marriage and bring it out even further, shall we? Take Care. Sexie Sadie ~ confessionsfrommyopenmarriage.blogspot.com/
posted: 02.28.2008
Jenny
I really enjoyed reading about your experience as my husband and I are in an open marriage as well. It can be tough. But it is also wonderful and has been worth all of the steps we had to take to get here. I appreciate you sharing your story. I think a lot more people are living this way than we know and writing like this really helps our visibility. All the best, Jenny Block Author of "Open: Love, Sex, and Life in an Open Marriage" Seal Press, June 2008 www(dot)jennyonthepage(dot)com open-marriage(dot)blogspot(dot)com/
posted: 11.30.2007
Dwight Hardtigan
Well now Ivy, I must admit that I sure was not expecting the type of responce you gave, but on the same hand I must also say, I am very pleased that you did. It was a pleasure to hear of your expierence and how much you and your husband enjoyed the pleasures of sharing each other with someone else, because in all honesty that is just what you two have done as well as my wife and I. And I must say...You go Girl. And I can honestly say that I know just what you mean, I mean I really do, because I to think that I have UnLeased an Animal In my wife, as well as having learned some of her deepest desires that she would not have other wise spoken of. Even til this day she has a bit of a hard time talking to me face to face about what, how and the way she enjoyed her self, well unless we do it through e-mail. But Yes I know all to well what you mean by Unleasing an Animal. I am happy for you and wish you and your husband the best, again it was great hearing of your expierence.
posted: 11.19.2007
Ivy Martin
I'm 29 & have been married for 8 yrs. My whole non-monogamy situation started a few years back when my husband asked if I was ever with a woman or if I had any interest in being with one. I told him that I kissed a girl in high school & that I had fantasies of sexual relatiuonships with women, I was always intrigued by another woman's feminitity & sensaulity. Then he asked if I would want to try & we both had sex with a female friend. At that point it was the most sexy, daring experience either one of us had ever had, it was his first time with 2 women. We continued to speak about fantasies, we would watch porn & ask each other would you do that, or would you like to see me do that.Our marriage is wonderful, even though we married young we have still been able to explore ourselves sexually with an understanting that we only party together.Since that first time we've had other encounters, even a full swap with another couple. I still want double penetration. He unleashed an animal in me
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