As much as men aren’t big fans of tears or crying, they deal with it as that’s just the way women are. When she is crying, for example, he might roll his eyes or huff and puff, but he does what he can to rebalance her emotional state in the form of listening, hugs, or a voice of reason … baby it is going to be ok … You’ll get through this. Anything less than compassion the man is considered an insensitive so and so … expletive, expletive, expletive. If he attempts to reason her emotions away—she expresses—I’m a girl and girls cry or I just need you to listen.
I’ve asked women if it were possible—would you give up your need to be emotional if your men gave up his need to “cheat”? Unequivocally every woman said, “No, absolutely not”—they felt they needed and wanted to be emotional. I was once told by a woman that she liked being emotional and that she needed to be emotional. I’ve heard women say they need to cry. They need a hug. I’ve never ever heard a guy say he needed a hug or he needed to cry. It wasn’t until I was an adult that I realized that my mother can cry on cue. The littlest things get her teary eyed. If she is reading this paragraph right now she’s crying. A woman’s need to be emotional is greater than her need for a faithful companion.
I understand the emotional frustration women have with men and infidelity. No woman wants to see her man with another woman. Nor does she want to be compared to another woman’s body or sexual performance; who does? She also becomes discourage after she commits to being his everything sexual partner, giving him as much sex as he wants, dressing sexy and even role playing to keep his attention. He still has rooming eyes. Her confusion leads to her questioning her own self worth—Why am I not good enough. What do other women have that I don’t? Why does he need to have sex with other women, when he can have me? Or why does he need to look another woman? These are valid questions, which lead her to seek therapy or to read self help books.
