Do Men Really Cheat? (Part 2)

To keep the peace and to move the relationship forward a man makes-believe and convinces his woman that she will be his only sexual partner for the life of that relationship. Even worst is his disloyalty to himself according to American heritage dictionary of a cheater—someone who leads you to believe something that is not. He leads himself to believe he is something that he is not—which is a man with a single sexual desire for one woman—his wife / girl-friend. This might be true in the first six months of their relationship. After that his needs are stronger than his words, the truth inevitably reveals itself, and he finds a way to have his biological needs meet. He visits strip clubs, reads adult magazines, and books, spends money on hookers, has an extra-martial affairs, downloads pornography or lives out his fantasies in his head while making love. As much as we like to pretend his ancestral lineage will not let men repress their sexual need; neither will vows, a promise or a committed relationship. As a society we would like to believe the “I do” at the altar or the birth of your first child changes man’s instinctual need; this unqualified truth has caused many hearts to be broken.

How many times have we heard, “How could you do that to me,” “I thought you loved me,” “We are married and have a family,” or “You cheated on me … I’m leaving you and you’ll never see your kids again,” “Our trust is ruined … I trusted you I can never trust you again.” I’m not doing these quotes the justice they deserve, because if you’ve use one of these quotes or heard similar words. You know that behind those words is a lot of pain and sadness. I sometimes watch the Maury show when they do a segment with the lie detector and the women are accusing the men of “cheating.” As daytime talk shows would have it, the men are usually guilty of adultery or being unfaithful to a devoted girlfriend; thus the need for the lie detector to prove her suspicion. When the results come back from the lie detector test it shows that the man has indeed “cheated.” Even though Maury, like The Springer Show, isn’t the most sophisticated I see the same hurt and devastation on the faces of the guests on Dr.