Recently the NY Yankee star Alex Rodriguez was seen out with a woman other than his wife. The press is having a field day and the New York Post headline read “Stray Rod—Alex hits strip club with mystery blonde.” We want to believe that because he is married—he is happy—if he is happy he is normal, therefore oh my god he is with another woman, oh how can that be. Maybe A-Rod and his wife aren’t having sex. Maybe his wife doesn’t want to have sex because she too tired or no longer attracted. Maybe there is too much emotional resentment they barely speak. We don’t know and the maybes are endless; nonetheless A-Rod, like a lot of men and public male figures is only following his basic instinct. The irony is that we all have troubled relationships; I’m sure some of the reporters and photographers that covered that story are in sexless marriages.
If and when a woman is in a high emotional state, her man has to be patient and does his best to support her back to being in balance. Sometime this takes hours, sometimes days. We all know that women can hold on to an undesirable event from the past and conjure up that emotion to support her argument today or to topple her man. Then he still has to find a way to bring her back to an emotionally balanced state.
Is it right that a woman doesn’t have to take responsibility for her emotional states? If she feels the need to cry should she and make her man the go-to guy to rebalance her even want he is not in the mood. Shouldn’t she wait for a better opportunity to cry vs. during the final quarter of the championship game? When she wants to cuddle—just because the movie ended on a sad note or cuddle after sex because that’s what she wants and he doesn’t? His need is to leave and when he does he is a jerk. Why are men punished for not being on stand by for her emotional ups and downs?
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