Oral Sex with Confidence

Fellatio. Let’s not beat around the bush, ladies—our men love it, want it, and fantasize about it regularly. The problem: many women I know want to pleasure their men, but can’t stomach the thought of swallowing. However, the last time I checked, all these women absolutely love to be on the receiving end of a little tongue action down there. So what’s a girl to do? For the love of pleasure, reciprocation, and good sex, I thought I’d share some ways to make it easy to blow without the blow.

Use your hands. Your mouth and tongue don’t have to do all the work. Use your tongue and lips to spread saliva up and down his shaft to lube it up for your hands. Then, while you French-kiss his member, you can also stroke him with your hands and occasionally run your index finger over the head of his penis, the same way you might use your tongue. Pay attention to his breathing and physical cues to determine when he is about to come, then allow your hands to seamlessly take over where your mouth was, and let him come in the palm of your hand instead. Keep your mouth and face close to his erection; the wet and warm sensation is important. Whatever you do, don’t stop the motion with your hands! Coming in your mouth is less important than continuing the stimulation up until the critical moment.

Get a facial. Have you ever watched porn with your lover? You’ll notice that nine times out of ten, the hot action ends in a face shot—when the dude ejaculates on her face. For a lot of men, this is HOT. Continue to use your hands, but instead of using your hand to prevent him from ejaculating in your mouth, keep your hands going and let him release on your face. Note: if you have watched porn flicks and are horrified by the amount of dew in his spew, don’t be alarmed. Rumor has that most of these stunt men take serious zinc supplements to boost their output, so this doesn’t reflect what you might expect from your partner.