And his. Now 11 months on we are separated, financially independent (we sorted out it all through mediation) and living 4 blocks away from each other. He looks after our daughter 1 weekday and takes her to and from nursery 2 days a week while I work 3 days and takes her at the week-end either a full Saturday or four hours on alternate weeks. He is a brilliant partner as a parent and our daughter is thriving. We support each other in every aspect of parenting and our daughter knows she can’t use one against the other as we are united!
All I can say is the fruits of our labour are now evident. By putting our daughter first we have a strong parent partnership.
Of course you can be assured I still am grieving for the love I lost (he lost his love for me a lot longer ago than I thought) and I still have anger that he betrayed me and resentment for his girlfriend’s involvement... but his commitment to our daughter and to me as her mum is second to none. So it works – it works well.
My advice for anyone that find themselves in a similar situation—if you have children, think of their well being in the demise of your marriage, put them first and then your new relationship with your partner can grow in a new, different and positive way.
I’m really now seeing the light at the end of the tunnel!
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