What Do You Say To an Ex When the Love Is Gone and There Are No Words Left?

What I would say to an ex when our love is gone and there’s no words left … I would be honest and truthful with him/her first and foremost, and I would ask if we could be bound by a lasting friendship. I would also let him/her see there is no malice whatsoever in my heart toward them. I would ask him/her if we could wipe the slate clean and for us to get on with our lives and be nice to one another during and after the divorce. Life is hard enough to endure at times and it’s much easier not to have a hate living inside to stress us out. I would also tell them we tried everything to hold our union together and it repeatedly went awry and it is impossible for us to continue living in the heated situation. I would confide to them that my love is over and there is no way it will come back because I’m a firm believer when you lose respect for a person … the love is over. I also let them know that living with them and not loving them would be an injustice to them. 

If there are children involved, I would point out staying together only hurts the children more by seeing us be cruel and saying rude things to each other. I would point out that children learn from their parents’ actions and they more than likely would imitate our actions in their own marriages. I’d make him/her aware children can be devastated by the divorce of their parents and often times they feel like the parent who leaves home doesn’t love them anymore. If we continue to show respect and consideration toward each other, the children will see we are friends and we both love them and care for them.

I personally believe that if two people cannot see eye to eye in a marriage or a relationship, they should part, and go their separate ways, but this definitely doesn’t mean we cannot have a good friendship after the relationship/marriage is over. We enjoyed many good times together, we were friends then, and we should continue our friendship. Separating doesn’t mean we have to keep a bad taste in our mouths for the rest of our lives toward the person we once loved. Once the relationship or divorce is over, it is over and done with, and there should not be any more squabbles and spats between the two people.