Who would have thought ... going through a divorce at sixty-two after forty years of marriage. I would never have thought I would do it. Being single after so very long is a hard adjustment—most of “our” friends were his originally so now, many are not my friends in the manner that I can do things with them. Most of them are married and that also is a problem for going out with friends. Being alone and living alone are not problems. In fact, it is one of the surprising benefits of the divorce. The children are all grown with children of their own. In fact, I babysit regularly for four of the six grandkids I have. My children have a good relationship with their father and me—that makes me very proud of them, that they can keep the divorce separate from “mom” and dad.”
All in all, I wish I had had the courage to leave the marriage much earlier, but since I didn’t, I just am making the best of my life now. At times I miss what I wish I had had in the marriage, but all in all, it is a relief and a joy to be out of the relationship.
I just hope everyone thinks long and hard. Divorce may be the road you need to take, but it is a difficult one and one that makes you dig deep inside the mind.
