I am a forty-three year old male who is going through a divorce that is unbelievable. My soon-to-be ex-wife started a relationship with a man where she boarded our horse. I want to believe that there was no sex involved, but everything points to her having an affair. We were going to marriage counseling and I thought everything was going well until she went off her medication and started screaming and yelling. I told her that day that I was done and wanted a divorce. What she did next was unreal.
During the argument, she hit me with her car keys, cutting my neck. I told her she could go to jail for that; she said go ahead, it will be the last time you ever did that. I went on a business trip that day and when I got back, I found out she had filed a domestic violence charge against me for allegedly raising my fist in anger and spitting in her face. I had gone to see a divorce attorney but I did not file for divorce. I could not bring myself to doing that to our three children. We have a four-year-old, a twelve-year-old, and a sixteen-year-old. My attorney told me not to go and talk to the police because they would arrest her for cutting my neck with the keys. Little did I know that was a bad move …
I was arraigned, thrown out of the house with only the clothes on my back. A bond was set with no contact with my family whatsoever. My world was turned upside down. I was allowed back in the house by my spouse to get my clothing and some personal items. While I was in the house, I wrote notes to my two oldest children stating their mother had had me arrested and I could not come home. I told them I was sorry this was happening and told them I loved them very much.
Two weeks later, I went to court to get the bond amended to see my children. I was an emotional wreck. My attorney came in and said the judge was not happy with me about the notes. Yes, she not only told the judge I was in the house but she produced the notes. I filed for divorce that day. Now that we’re going through this divorce, she refuses to get the bond lifted so we can talk.
