As I became closer to Lisa and I finally moved up to her city so that we could live together, I was just beginning to find out these things about her. But, as many men do, I felt that through my love and caring I could “fix” these issues once I was living with her. And, in fact, that is exactly what happened, for a little while, anyway. To be fair, during this whole discourse, I must say that in my life I have typically entered into serious relationships with women who have been damaged in some core emotional manner. No doubt, because I thought I could fix them. Some men go through life dating or having relationships with women who basically are the same physical type. In my case, the women in my serious relationships looked wildly different from each other, and some were even women from other cultures and countries. But, the connective tissue for all of them was the fact they were in some way seriously emotionally damaged women.
The first year was fairly idyllic. Though, as do most couples, we had a few arguments about certain issues, like money, for instance. Overall, it was a lovely year and it was terrific for me to be part of a relationship and think in terms of two, instead of just me. Lisa initially had reservations about me dealing with her daughter because I had never been married or had children. It was a huge concern for her, and rightfully so. However, I’d always dreamed about being a father and her daughter was a terrific and bright girl who I grew to love and she and I bonded fairly quickly and settled nicely into a comfortable step-parent/step-child situation. In fact, over the remainder of my relationship with Lisa I actually became the parental figure her daughter most trusted and felt comfortable with whenever she stayed with us. This didn’t surprise me because she was quite close with her father primarily because he was the dominant parental figure in her life and the fact that I was a strong, reliable male like him only helped us develop a good relationship.
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