State of Depression

By: Cindy Smith (View Profile)

My life is completely turned upside down. After almost fifteen years of marriage, I finally realized what a jerk I have married. I have made a decision to leave this marriage, I just can’t let him know. Not that I don’t want to, but when I asked for a divorce two years ago, he went nuts. I wound up getting wine thrown in my face, and then he busted me in the mouth. His temper has always been bad, but I never thought he would stoop to hitting me. But he did, and threw me out of the house. I stayed with friends for awhile, the only thing I took with me was a few clothes and my dog. That’s another thing that was always on my mind. Several years back, he bought me German shepherd pup. When he was six months old, I happened to look out the back yard and saw my husband sitting on my dog and beating him in the head with his fists. The only way I could get him off was to bodily jump on him. I took the pup inside, put his leash on him, and was going to take him back. I went to get my shoes and keys and when I came back in to get the pup he stated to me that I was not going anywhere with him. That is an image that will remain in my mind forever. What kind of a person would do such a thing. The puppy was big but he was only six months old! I am a huge animal lover.

Since that day I lost all respect for this person who calls himself a man. I have been putting  aside money that he doesn’t know I have and I intend to get away from here soon. I can’t keep living with this fear and his constant drinking. I did leave before and of course like a dummy he talked me into coming back. I won’t make the same mistake twice.

Several years later, I was in the hospital and he went and bought an Airedale puppy. Said we needed to have another dog. I was scared for the puppy, but I didn’t know where he bought him. This dog was going to be large, and large he was. He topped off at 103 pounds. As time passed, I became more and more attached to him. But constantly worried that he was going to be a victim.

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posted: 06.03.2008
Nancy Cushman
Cindy, As I ventured into what is now my new life, I too realized that my marriage was so far over that there were hateful feelings lingering. The decision to leave is the hardest, but make one and stick with it. This is not to say that I do not have some breakdown moments and fell sorry for myself, cry, scream, cuss, and carry on. But to go back to the other life, NEVER!! Give yourself all the love you need to get ready, rely on your closest friends to help and then fly away. You will give yourself the best gift of all. Best of everything in life!! Nancy
posted: 01.30.2008
Jeanne Bean
Cindy, it's not that you referred to yourself as a "dummy"..sometimes, in life, we really want to think that we can have the 2.5 children, house in the suburbs with the white picket fence...but, in reality, it's not there..anywhere~! Your decision to make plans for a new life is a superb decision, and I'm sure you're walking on eggshells right now, as you stash away as much as you can for your "great escape"! Remember when the time comes, to allow yourself to Celebrate !! Celebrate the new life that YOU are creating for yourself..don't dwell on what you're leaving behind. What you will leave behind is the past...a past that only deserves one thing, the knowledge to not make the same mistake twice. I've walked in those shoes before...Best of luck to you, Cindy ! Here's to your New, Fabulous Life, heading straight for you!!
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