Our sex life was down the tubes. I thought, oh well, at least he is not abusing me. I asked him if he would seek counseling and he was very adamant: NO!!! Then, I tried another tactic, I literally threw myself at him and he turned me down more than once.
It hurt more than you know. Since that time, we have lived like brother and sister; I moved out of our bedroom in 2001 when I had my arthritis flare up. I then became all involved in the Internet and met many friends, which let me escape to a world where life was fun. This was what kept me from going crazy! I realized that my husband and I had nothing in common as he liked to go to bed early, before 8 PM! That left me with the evenings to myself. I didn’t realize how lonely I was all these years until I retired from my job in 2005.
When my mother passed away in October of 2005, I was completely devastated. She was not only my mother but also my friend. Then, people who I thought were my friends turned their backs on me. It was more than I could take.
Loneliness makes people do crazy things. In February 2006, I once again looked for Bob L and, ironically, on my father’s birthday, I found him. It turned out that he has lived six miles from me for 20 years! I threw caution to the wind and called him! He's single with no children and was glad to hear from me. For the next three weeks, we have talked everyday and I have, of course, met him and spent time with him.
I wonder if this is destiny?
In spite of the 35 years of not being in touch, I still have all those old feelings for him! He has made me feel like someone special (he’s special to me, too). I don’t know where it will take us, but we’ve spent too many years apart to come this close again and let things fizzle out. He even carried around a necklace he bought me many years ago and he was able to give it to me upon our first new meeting three weeks ago.
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