What Doesn’t Kill You Will Make You Stronger

By: One Lovee (View Profile)

Get to the story... so, he of course needs some physical interaction with someone... not me, because I can’t stomach it.  Well, he found someone; I think it’s someone he may have crossed paths with before. I heard she is married, like we are, my husband and I. She and her husband are temporarily separated. Well you know what happens when you have sex and you don’t use protection. Well there are a few things that could happen, and by the Grace of God I have no terminal illness, no STD. However, she became pregnant and chose to have this child, and also chose to go back with her husband, and told my husband he should try to get back with me. Of course she didn’t know she was pregnant for quite some time, I think she was almost showing. Long story short, I don’t know what the hell I’m doing. I didn’t tell you that I have been on a spiritual journey for some time now, and I have learned many things. Forgiveness, well that takes a lot of maturity... but I’m there most days. Some days I have to forgive all over again. So I guess you could say I didn’t really forgive. I don’t know.

So ladies and guys if you’re reading, I can’t tell this story to most people I know. Just hurts to talk about it. The child—innocent in this. My husband well he “just wants to do the right thing.” And I want to ask him, why didn’t you do the right thing and use some protection? Why didn’t you do the right thing and tell me this situation before you decided to ask could we get back together? Why didn’t you do the right thing and leave me on my own? I missed him, but I was letting go. He couldn’t let go and I gave in. I love him, yes. But I don’t know how to deal with this situation. Our son is 31 years old, and you tell him... he might have a baby brother. 

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posted: 10.26.2007
One Lovee
Mother Teresa, Thank you for your comments. I absolutely agree that prayer is my soothing balm in this situation. I knew that this was an opportunity for me to practice what I preach, forgiveness, let go, let God and so much more. So I put the situation in God's hands. Some days I took it back. I could not have predicted this situation and who could have - but I realize the power and presence of GOD in me. My husband and I have grown closer in some ways since this occurence. Some days I think I can't do this - I look at him and say - how could you? Then some days I try walking in the other woman's shoes and try to imagine what she may be going through - although she chose this. Its an odd situation. I think this hurts even more for me because I could not have more children - so I hurt for my unborn children and well I thought this pain had gone - but it didn't. I relive it now in this situation. I know God is blessing me and I will pray for all involved. PEACE
posted: 10.18.2007
Mother Teresa Sims
wow you are alot stronger than you give yourself credit for. the question thats on the table if you love your husband you might forgive him for a while. but if your in love with him you will accept that child because he is apart of your husband. the sin has been committed. the child only wants to be love and i can only imagine the reaction of the other womans husban. the bible tells us suffer not the little children.----- be prayerful start to pray for your husband and the child also the other couple believe me GOD WILL bless you. is not going to happen over night but God is a good listener and if you trust in your heart and let go and let GOD you will see a change. for as you and your husband getting back together i dont know have you ironed out the issuses that was at hand. the reason why he left. and most importantly the reason why hes back. no one is perfect i know i sometimes feels my husband is. because of the so many perfect memories that i have and i hope that i works out .
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