6. It is not so much what happens to us in life, rather it is how we handle what happens that counts. Things will always happen in life, some good and some bad. That’s just life. Accepting that fact shows you that you have a choice to choose how you will handle things. You can choose to sit in resentment and bitterness and suffer as a result or you can choose to call upon your higher self that resides within and leap into the future as a better person.
7. Learn acceptance of what is versus what you think should be. Very important point! Have you truly accepted reality for what it truly is or are you still walking around in a world of should-be’s? You know, I should be married, I should have more support, I shouldn’t be suffering, life should be fair, etc., etc., etc. The sooner you learn to accept things as they are, the sooner you will be able to make real choices on how you want to live your life.
8. The meanings we add to what happens to us are not the facts. Our interpretations of life dictate our future. There are the facts of life and our personal interpretations of those facts. We add meaning where oftentimes there is no other meaning than the fact itself. For example, my husband is cold and heartless. That means that I have failed to elicit his warmth and therefore I am a failure in this marriage. That is just your interpretation. The fact remains that your husband is a cold person which is based on his past and not yours and over which you have no control! Watch carefully how you choose to interpret reality. It will make all the difference in the world for you.
9. Try separating the facts from the drama. Oh the drama of it all. He left me for no reason, he is a cad, I have suffered such abuse, he is causing me such unhappiness and this marriage was so destructive to me. Facts? He left because the marriage was not working and no one was happy, I am not an overly happy person to begin with, the destructive marriage is over and the future is available to me if I am willing to let go of the past. Do yourself a big favor and separate fact from drama.
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