10. Don’t let the mind chatter run the show because you will forever stay stuck. Learn to disempower the mind chatter by not responding to it. Hear it, notice it, and thank it for sharing and them move on. Don’t argue with it or attempt a logical conversation. Mind chatter loves the status quo and abhors change so when change is in the air it will get very loud.
11. Learn to forgive. Forgiveness is not condoning bad behavior, it is simply forgiving it. If you capable of forgiveness then you are capable of letting go of toxic emotions. Look at the other person and see their inner child much like your own. Separate their behavior from that inner child and it is much easier to forgive.
12. Fall in love with yourself, warts and all. Honor everything about you. Make a list of all the things you like about yourself. Get your friends to tell you what they love about you. Now look at the things that you think are not so hot about yourself. Have they allowed you to do certain things that enhance you? Can you simply see that they are all a part of you? Can you see that you can also work to soften the edges? You are a totally unique individual who will never be around again. You have a gift to give the world that is yours and yours alone.
13. You have control over one thing and one thing alone in this life…yourself. Did you try to change your ex during your marriage? Did it work? The only person you can change is yourself. The only thing you can control in life is yourself. It is through who you are being that will impact those around you most intensely and then is when you may see some changes. Work on yourself and forget about working on the ex. People change because they want to not because you want them to. You will change because you want a better life.
So what will it be? Are you willing to do the work that needs to be done in order to live a great life? Are you willing to learn to let go of the past so you can live in the present and create the future? The best way to predict the future is to invent it you know!
Life after divorce can be better than before. Not only can you survive divorce but you can have a vibrant, fulfilling and happy life. Women, you can become the creators of a new way of living.
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