On top of the tears my mother starts to understand what’s going on. She tells me to not continue this with him. She lets me know the games he is playing and how he is getting to me mentally to control what’s going on. She says, “You can’t change him, only God can.”
He continues to abuse me with the worthless comments again. Eventually, I just have enough and let him know that I’ve already found someone else and I’m engaged to someone who I was engaged with before (this is the only way I can get the abuse to stop). He’s distraught by this news and says he doesn’t agree with my decision to get married. The calls come even more.
Fast forward a couple of weeks:
He breaks his neck trying to find someone else to rub in my face. In this whole process, he begs for my forgiveness and tries whatever he can to win me back. During this whole time of his begging his new girl is fully aware of this and waits patiently for him to “fully” be hers. Now I realize that he has quickly worked his previous ways on her, for back up support. Repeatedly he says that my social status wasn’t enough for him. I realize that he has found a girl whose parents are well off, and he is comfortable with their living situation so they can take care of him. She quits school for him and currently pays all his bills, gives him her car, and fully supports him because he is completely incapable on his own. But on the other hand she is unable to keep a job because of his controlling behavior.
During this time he turns her against me and she writes blogs about me and how I “treated him” and how my actions suddenly hurt him and she has fixed everything and eases his pain. How mature. Little did she know what I went through. (Do you honestly think that someone would break up with a perfectly good man and refuse to ever speak with him again? Come on now). Granted ... I just want the pain to stop and for both of them to go away.
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