Longest Days and Shortest Years

By: Maija Threlkeld (View Profile)

Politely I nod back in response to both acknowledge the sentiment and try to mask own my disbelief. ‘Grow up fast?’ It never seems fast enough during the trying times of parenting.

I wonder if boarding school or boot camp would make the time fly quicker?

But I know that her intent is to remind me that the arduous times will pass too. And to try not to lose sight of the little hands behind the messy finger paints.

I’m reminded of a conversation I had with a customer service representative who came on the line just as my son started to drill me loudly with questions, having been quietly playing independently all the while I waited on hold. The service rep couldn’t help but hear him in the background demanding my attention. “I remember those days!” she chuckled. “He was quiet until a moment ago of course” I laughed back in my exasperation. Our conversation continued while I placed my order and then she paused and offered “A friend once shared about parenting, ‘These are the longest days and the shortest years.’” Then I paused too. How true it is.

How I wish the moments of soft-cheeked kisses and little voices singing in the house were longer and the trials of parenting shorter. But time flies regardless and in a blink the kids are grown. Years from now when I overhear another woman share “They grow up so fast” with a mom fraught in a parenting moment I hope I don’t weep too loudly.

They grow up fast. Far too fast.

 

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posted: 02.03.2008
Catherine McCarty
You're correct -- we mothers of nearly-grown kids mostly forget the hard times and remember only the chubby cheeks, the tiny hands, the scent of fresh-washed toddler. It's like deleting the photos with the closed eyes. But let that comfort you in the difficult times. Before you know it they will have faded. In their place will be left the desire to go back and relive all the sweet moments, and the realization that it's too late. I actually wrote just a couple of week ago about this very thing at my blog, Emptying Our Nest (Tales from a Mom Whose Kids Have Nearly Flown the Coop. Check out Snow Angels, http://emptyingournest.blogspot.com/2008/01/snow‐angels.html
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