I have watched Ry and have seen the hatred building and the other night he finally let it show ... He was so angry at his father that he wished we had never met. He so hates this man for all the pain that he has inflicted on us and wants to see his father to return the favor. He wants to see him so he can inflict as much pain on him that he has inflicted on us. I fear this because the pain that Ry wants to inflict on his father, which he is now calling by his first name, is enormous. I truly feel that this will not help anything but only cause so much more pain. I get accused of being the one that said the things that Ry has. Things about not liking his father for almost killing me and not liking his current wife because of how she treats me. He also does not like her because they met on the internet. Ry feels like a second class citizen when he is with them. They do not put Ry first and that is wrong.
His father re-enlisted in the service, now in the National Guard in Iraq, thinks that he has no responsibility to our son. I am fighting for insurance, child support and the dependant allowance that he is entitled to. This man has no regard for the well-being of his son. I only wish that Ry could be proud of him, but instead he currently hates this man. I wish I could take this pain away and hope that he is not his father ... I know Ry is concerned that he will grow-up like him and I try to reassure him that I will not let him grow up to be like that man that thinks he is a father ...
This young man, Ry, is a great teenager. He made the honor-roll for the first time and I was so proud of him. Ry, has ADHD so school and life in general can be a challenge. He will be in High School next year and I know he will do great things there. He is growing into a truly good young man. He is now off his medication and doing pretty good. I wish we could share this with his dad and how great he is doing. Unfortunately we can’t. He looks for an reason to start an argument with and for everything.
A man is only as great as those around him. I am told that I have done a really good job with my boys for being a single mother. I think the saying should be changed to “ A man is only as great as those who teach him to be.” I take pride in being a good mom and dad to my boys. I try to teach them to respect others and themselves. I have shown my boys that you should be true to yourself and treat others as you would have them treat you. I hope I do as great with him and he turns out like his older brother. I will be even more proud of Ry and his brother then what I am currently.
I don’t want Ry to ever be the cause of pain and have someone he loves feel the feelings that his father caused him or our family. I hope that Ry remembers that he is above hurting anyone for selfish reasons ... Causing pain to someone out of greed or just pure spite is wrong. I believe that karma will win in the end ... As the saying goes, “You reap what you sow.” Judgment will be cast on those who cause the pain that others have to deal with.
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