Stopping the Sass

By: Lara London (View Profile)

Sigh. I have so many more stories like these. And sadly, I really like all of the parents of these children. But I can’t take their rude kids. I can rationalize that the kids are this way because their parents always indulge them and never say no. I can easily figure out that they watch too much violent TV or play too many violent video games, making them hyper—or that they have too much sugar in their diets, etc. But whatever it is, I can’t handle it anymore.

Clearly, my son is living vicariously through them because I don’t put up with it from him. I never have. Plenty of my friends actually suggest that I’m too strict. So be it—if it ensures he won’t become a little monster. Have any of you experienced this? It’s absolutely depressing to think about how many unruly children there are these days. I sound like a cliché, but when I was growing up, you’d get in trouble if you didn’t say “yes, ma’am.” If you dared to talk back to an adult, you’d be in BIG trouble.

Not so much today. I did tell the moms about their children’s behavior—I figured I owed them that much. One rolled her eyes and just said, “Oh, Craigy (name changed), you know better than that.” But she said it to her son in sing-song voice like she was amused and that was the end of it.

Another mom made her son write an apology note and made him apologize to my face later as well. I was very impressed. One mom just cried as she said her son had been acting out at home and on other playdates. It’s sad, isn’t it? I just don’t know where the sass is coming from and clearly, many parents are confused as well. In the meantime, regardless of how fond I am of these kids’ parents, I’ll try to keep the playdates to a minimum and make sure my son realizes their behavior is absolutely not acceptable.

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posted: 10.09.2008
Heather Snyder
And that is the reason I do not babysit and have no intention of having kids.
posted: 04.09.2008
Stephanie B
My kids are pretty well behaved, although they do have their moments.I only have a few children that I will babysit though. I have one friend who has a daughter the same age as my daughter. I've babysat her a few times, and her mom even paid me. I just couldn't do it after trying a couple of times. The whole day this kid is yelling at my children when they don't do what she wants them to do. I don't mean fussing a bit like kids do. I mean screaming at them. She also says off the wall things, which her mom warned me about beforehand. Once she giggled and told me I'm fat. I was already expecting it but the friend I had overs head almost exploded when she said it. I'm not saying my kids don't have their bad moments. My son is in the habit of arguing with everything I tell him to do, and my daughter won't stop talking for anything. Fortunately my 11 month old hasn't figured it all out yet, but it's coming soon. I wonder if my kids are that bad when they're at other peoples homes.I hope not
posted: 04.08.2008
Mina Marie
I am sitting here reading this and I am thinking to myself, oh my goodness, all of this is so right! I am now going through all of this with my 4-year-old who thinks that it is her way and thats the end of story. She used to be a 'yes mom' little girl but since having sleep overs and playdates with other children who DO have attitudes with thier parents it has turned into nothing but disrespect. I have tried several punishments including taking away favorite toys and time outs and numerous other things but it only works for a day or two. Thank you for this article. I see that I am not the only one going through this and reading this had kind of helped.
posted: 04.05.2008
Desirai Labrada
I understand all too well and it's unfortunately the reason why I don't make more of an effort to set up playdates. I'm also called very strict by friends and family. I'm very understanding but not very tolerant. My son get 3 warnings but after that he knows he's in serious trouble. Parents are way too lenient on their kids these days and it shows. I wonder if that's due in part to the fact that so many women are going back to work instead of staying home with their kids. Not that I disagree with working mothers. I am one. Who knows? The one thing I do know is that I'll do whatever necessary to make sure I raise a polite, sensitive, thoughtful, and respectful little boy I expect my son to be.
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