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Learning to Drive: A Parent’s Guide to Driving With Teenagers

By: ParentingTeensOnline (View Profile)

When Ann He’s son turns into the family’s driveway, he doesn’t hit the brake—he just sails right in. Each time the car comes to a stop, Ann braces herself for the crunch of a collision.

“When you’re a new driver, you aren’t aware of the power you have,” she says. “He hasn’t hit anything, but from a parent’s perspective it’s totally giving up control.”

And that isn’t easy. Just at the age when kids feel they are invincible, they are given responsibility over a several-ton vehicle. And they’re not the only ones at risk; other drivers don’t know that a complete novice is trying to beat them to the traffic light.

Kids are at risk because they aren’t listening when parents remind them about rules and they lack the experience to deal with the unexpected. NHTSA statistics state that car accidents are the top cause of death for people aged 15 to 20.

Parents might be surprised, however, at how much influence they have. “According to our research, parents are the biggest influence on teens’ driving behaviors,” says Stephen Wallace, president of SADD.

Practice and More Practice
Most Driver’s Ed programs include about six hours of driving time. That’s not enough, says Andrea H., a professional driving instructor from Sacramento, California. “One of the most important things parents can do is give teens plenty of practice between lessons,” she says.

Perhaps because of stricter licensing laws, higher insurance costs or fewer public Driver’s Ed courses, teenagers are no longer rushing to get their licenses at 16. It’s not unusual for teenagers to wait until age 17 or later to get a license. The longer you wait, the more experience and oversight your teen will have.

It doesn’t matter how long it takes before your teen is comfortable behind the wheel. “Parents don’t need to add teens to their policies until they actually have a license,” says Monique Dufresne, a New Jersey insurance agent. “Keep the permit for over a year.”

Driver’s Education: Know Your Options
Public Driver’s Ed programs used to be the norm; however, these programs are being cut as public schools tighten their budgets. Private programs often fill the gaps. In some states, they are the only option.

Rebecca A. of Raleigh, North Carolina, sent her teens to classes at the public school. The program was free and convenient, but not perfect. “The school trained two kids at a time and the other student with my son was horrible—he had never been behind a wheel,” she says. Public Driver’s Ed programs can also be crowded and difficult to get into.

In some states, parents can teach their teens themselves using a state-approved curriculum. “As the one who signs off on the permit, you have the opportunity to require a level of skill the kids would never get in two weeks at a driving school,” says Katie M., a Texas mother who has taught her three teenagers to drive at home.

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