- Try distracting your child by calling his attention to something else, such as a new toy, book, or activity. Make an unfamiliar sound or funny face to try to break the momentum.
Time-outs.
This technique works best for children (usually three and under) who understand why it is being used. This “cooling off” period physically and emotionally removes the child from the source of his anger. A general rule of thumb is that for every year of your child’s age, he is given one minute of time-out. If old enough, talk to him (after the time-out) about what has happened.
Punishment and Rewards.
- Never punish your child for having a temper tantrum
- Never reward your child for stopping a tantrum
You Should See Your Child’s Doctor about Temper Tantrums When.
- You have concerns about the tantrums
- Your child, over four years, continues to have frequent episodes
- Your child’s temper tantrums escalate into violent, destructive behavior
- You have problems handling your child’s behavior, particularly if you are concerned that you may hurt your child
Finally, temper tantrums, while admittedly difficult (and sometimes a bit scary), are a normal part of growing up. Approaching these “mini-meltdowns” with love, caring, and understanding will help your child (and you!) get through this most “active” period.
