Wishful Thinking: Musings from the Evil Stepmother

I AM in the same position only I didn't have the benefit of being a parent before this experience. Thank you. Sometimes I feel awful for the way I think in response to some of what my step-daughter says and does and it's good to know I'm not alone for feeling those things. I too, have bitten my tongue and stood in silence while my head rushed around in anger, disapppointment or hurt until I was able to let go of my stranglehold on my ego and see the child's perspective. Please keep writing this column!

This is heartwrenching! Though I am not in your exact position, I think many of us can relate to your feelings after being "rejected" by a child. Working in an elementary school has brought me countless moments of joy and some of my proudest moments, but it has also brought me moments when I felt like a total failure and others where I wish I could just yell "Shut up!" at the top of my lungs. In the long run, however, I recognize that these are children, and they are quick to act and slow to think about their actions. They get lost in the moment, and say things they shouldn't because they are angry and frustrated. Often times, the moments that bring me near explosion are followed closely by moments when I wish I could just bring my kids home with me. Though it's hard, I suggest you try not to take the hurtful words too personally. This is a terribly confused child who will grow up. Bravo to you for not acting rashly. After all, you were a child once too.