Neither parent has custody of the children. Yet, the mother can refuse to allow her son to live with her and if the father says the same thing he can go to jail for child abandonment because the mother did it first. I offered the child a home last week. He would have to move four states away from his family and friends and he had to get a hair cut and get counseling. I was willing to pay for the counseling, I was willing to give him love and security for the first time in his life and the words he gave his loving grandmother were “I am not cutting my F---ing hair or seeing no F---ing doctor and you cant make me go to school.” That was like a light switch being turned on in my head to me. He is absolutely right, I can’t make him do anything. Including coming into my home to abuse me and my husband. So I withdrew the offer until he is ready to show respect.
I know my fourteen year old grandson will end up in jail or dead. I have to live with it. Because I spent four days on the phone with every authority in his state only to find out there is nothing they will do to help him. Yes, his father is a drug addict and alcoholic with very liberal views on life. Yes, his mother has mental problems, is an alcoholic and drug addict who will sleep with any man that walks by. Yes, the child has a right to be angry and is acting out the life he was raised in. Why? Because the system will not help him.
Every time I hear our prisons are so overcrowded they are having to release prisoners I cringe. Why? Because society helped create these criminals by not helping families who beg for help. I am a teacher and I gave it up because I cannot stand in a class room with a child who can curse me and there is nothing I can do but send them home to come back another day and curse me again. A child who can assault me and the system do nothing but expel them from school. A child who can one day walk into class and shoot me and every student in my class because the system refused to stop this child.
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