- Take a recess when you need a break. Why do we expect adults to work for eight, nine, or ten hours straight (with lunch usually eaten at a desk) without a break? Why do we spend so much of our lives inside, away from the glory of the outdoors? I know that when I’m inside out, and my kids are cranky and picking on each other, a twenty minute romp outside will dissipate said foul mood rather quickly.
- When you’re feeling frustrated, take a time out. When we’re at our wits end, some physical (and mental) distance can be a great help. We all need solitude and time alone.
- Use your words when you want something. Learning how to tell people what we like—and what we dislike—is a valuable tool. Who said that if someone really loves us, they’ll know what we want? Not in this world: we have to let them know.
- Say you’re sorry when you’ve hurt someone. Perfection doesn’t occur on this planet. We forgive ourselves, as we forgive others. We forgive others, as we forgive ourselves.
- It’s only spilled milk. Most mistakes are not the end of the world; for your children, or yourself.
- You don’t have to go to every party. An invitation is not an obligation. I am careful to plan for leisure time for my children, which means picking and choosing activities---even parties and “fun” things. Too much activity and too little rest makes for a cranky child, and a cranky adult, too.
- Daydream. Hope, dream, and dawdle; are lives are not just about productivity.
- Support yourself during transitions. My children’s worst moments come during transitions—when we’re transitioning between one place and another (school and home, for example), or when we’re navigating an internal transition (a growth spurt, a change in routine, or a change in seasons.) I am no different. This is the time for extra kindness and compassion, towards yourself, and others.
- Feel your emotions. When my children are mad, I let them be mad. When they’re sad, I let them be sad. How often do I offer myself the same consideration? Hmmm.....
My Rules for Happiness
By: Karly Pitman (View Profile)
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