Hunger Strike

Sitting in Bloomingdale’s ladies lounge this past November, nursing my ten-week-old son, my cell phone rang. It was a creative director of an ad agency I’d wanted to work for since I was in college. “I wait twenty years to have a baby and now you make an offer?” I say, half kidding.

Summer of 1986—I’d driven halfway across the country from University of Texas at Austin to interview at Chiat\Day. Now, twenty years later, the same creative director was finally dangling a carrot.

Was this some test of the universe? Sell my soul to advertising or nurture my sweet son during these precious primal months of his life?

Just prior to my son’s birth, I’d been freelancing partly in advertising, partly in the travel-writing world. I hadn’t planned to return to the work force in either capacity until after the New Year, and then, only to freelance from home. 

Having just braved a child solo at forty-four as a single mom, one of us had to bring home the diapers. My son, Ames, had yet to start sending out resumes.

I sobbed about a job I would otherwise be doing cartwheels over. It seemed unthinkable of leaving my baby so soon and so suddenly. But after days of weighing the long-term benefits, I accepted the offer.

Bottle Stand-off

Ames had other ideas. My 100 percent breast-fed being, who took a bottle of my pumped milk from Grandma his first six weeks of life, had suddenly gone on a hunger strike. He would not take a bottle. Not from one of the nanny candidates, not from me, not from Grandma (back in town to transition/bless the nanny), not a friend—no one. 

All of the books had warnings about the timing of when to introduce a bottle. Not too soon so as to refuse mommy’s breast, but not too late so as to refuse a bottle altogether. Given Ames’s early eagerness, I hadn’t bothered to try and feed him a bottle since Grandma returned to Texas. If he could master the bottle at his first six weeks of life without a hitch, what was the point of pumping and feeding him the next six weeks when he had free reign of my breasts day and night?