Cathy’s Secret

By: Brenda Martin (View Profile)

I was so scared. Then I watched it go down to 0. They laid her back and since her husband did not sign a DNR form, they would have to do compressions. I told her husband you better go stop them, they are fixing to do it (compressions) I told him 3 or 4 times. If they had done the compressions it would have caved her chest in. He finally told them to do everything but that, so they jerked her gown down and put those electric things on her chest and tried to shock her back. They used one of those long needles. They could not get her back. She died at 11:58 that night. I not only lost my only sister; she was my best friend. I loved her so much. She had just turned 35 December 20th.

I will never get over losing her, I still cry everyday, and I feel like I am going to grieve myself to death over her. I guess a lot is guilt, because after the doctor said she had bulimia, I got on the internet and looked at the complications for bulimia, there she was, my sister, and I did not see it.

 

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posted: 06.25.2007
Flower 65
I am so very sorry for your loss. I have a brother , no sister, but he is the dearest thing in the world to me, no friend can share all your memories and experiences. I know you've heard time and again that this wasn't your fault, but you have to beleve it. Bulimia is a terrible, terrifying disease and people that have it often have the gene for addiction. You did say your sister was addicted to Morphine. You were fighting an uphill battle, but knowing you were there for her, even though she sometimes acted as though she lied, must have been a tremendous comfort to her. Now...comfort yourself. It's time to allow yourself son\me peace. My thoughts are with you,and your family.
posted: 05.16.2007
Suha Araj
Hi Brenda, your story is heartbreaking. I want to thank you for sharing it with us, I know that it will help others who are going thru loss. You are in my thoughts.
posted: 05.16.2007
Caroline Boussenot
Sometimes things happen that have no rhyme or reason. We find ourselves in situations we never thought we would have to endure, faced with hurt and loss, sadness and ache. The best we can do is be present with ourselves and be there with the ones we are supporting, which you did. Thank you for sharing your story, it is an important step in your healing process to open up to others and tell what you have gone through.
posted: 05.15.2007
Meredith
Brenda - I can't begin to tell you how sorry I am for your loss. Know that you did all you could, it sounds like you were a wonderful sister to Cathy who cared for her very very much and did everything in your power to help her. Your story hits close to home because I have been struggling with bulimia for about 4 years now and am on the road to recovery so I can tell you from experience that people with bulimia don't want to admit they have a problem, lies get rationalized until we believe it is the truth. I believe in your grief you can help girls that are dealing with bulimia. You may also find it healing for you. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers.
posted: 05.04.2007
Rebecca Brown
I am so, so sorry for your loss...I can't imagine how hard it would be to lose a sister. But you have to know that you did all you could. Bulimia is partially about control so I'm guessing she made a huge effort to hide it from you until she couldn't hide it anymore. Maybe you can find a support group for families of people who suffer bulimia, or if not a support group, there are quite a few counselors and therapists who specialize in helping with this. In either case, it's important to remember that this was not your fault.
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