Divine Guidance: The Choices Are Yours

Have you ever noticed that most advice columnists actually have an answer to your problem? The answer may include opinion, advice, judgment, or humor, but it’s clearly stated, and, like magic…problem solved. This has always mystified and bored me just a tiny bit, too. The complexity of life is often the juiciest bit, and answers, as we know too well, are usually a work in progress, not a final destination.

Carl Jung said the gold is in the darkness. The gold, the beauty, the complexity, lies just where we might not want to look.

The best therapies embrace complexity in its many forms. One of Freud’s most brilliant observations (and he had many) was that we are more influenced by what goes on in our unconscious mind than we know. Just as Copernicus decentered man from thinking the sun revolved around him and the Earth, Freud decenters us from ourselves, and asks us just who is in charge here? This is a great question. One that asks us to never stop growing and working with life and whatever problems or obstacles we believe lie in our path.

The best therapies also open you up to your own solutions, guide you back to your own power, help connect you back to you. They shake up your perceptions a bit. Because they bring awareness to troublesome situations, they provoke, intrigue, and enlighten. They help you understand that you always have more choice, more space than you thought because they move you toward a solution-oriented frame of mind. Rather than wishing life were problem free, once you understand how to access a more solution-oriented space, you will be freer to enjoy what’s good in your life, and trust that you can sort the rest out in time. This confidence and trust is key to your ability to enjoy your life, embrace it in all its complexity and work toward positive change.

Divine Guidance is a gentle nudge in the right direction, an invitation to tap into the vast realm of possibility and choice. It’s a collaboration between you and me, between you and other readers, between you and the most authentic parts of yourself. In helping to create this space, I invite you to write in with your problems, your questions, your thoughts. I also invite you to respond to any question that might touch a chord within you. Perhaps it’s a dilemma you are working on in your own life, or one you have moved through already.