The Scoop on Gossip

Have you ever found yourself sucked into a negative conversation involving talking about another person? If so, there are some things you may want to keep in mind. The very popular activity of gossiping may bring back a lot of childhood memories for some of you. If you are living your life consciously, your gossip days are now behind you. However, for some of you, circumstances continue to arise where you just can’t help yourself. You know this particular person, and the truth is they are just plain mean and they just continue to do really stupid, mind-boggling things. Hey, I understand. What I would lovingly recommend is this: meditate on the fact that people are not their actions.

There are real laws of the Universe that we simply cannot escape. Have you ever heard of the Law of Attraction? What you give you get. The Irish have their own way of interpreting this law: “Who gossips with you will gossip of you.” Think about this the next time you partake in a seemingly harmless dialogue at someone else’s expense.

One of the reasons many of you may still gossip may be boredom. This excuse says much about the person who considers slander as a way to round out the day. Think about what is going on in your own world. Do you have a family, a job, or a pet? What can you do that is constructive that will enhance these parts of your life? What can you do for yourself? The next time your attention goes to someone else, redirect your energies to ways to enhance the joy to those closest to you.

Trouble can also arise when we seek approval from other people. If a discursive communication is instigated from someone that you admire or want to gain attention from, then you need to seriously reevaluate. Why do you want this person’s approval?
If they are in a position to help you in your career, you should be prepared to back away.
You might be surprised when you stand up to people how they will react. You may get the respect you wanted all along. If not, you will be better off extracting this person from your networking list. Practice the winning combination of kindness and patience. The Universe will reward you when you least expect it.