Heal Thyself, But How?

Steps toward self-healing—take one-step today. One word on one card will do. Set your intention to heal yourself and attract other healers into your life.

Make affirmation cards, use collage images and pictures of yourself, and words like “I choose”.

When holding your inner child, find a picture of yourself at the age you feel you need nurturing. Hold that picture to your heart. Hold yourself that way.

Write letters to your abuser and the entourage of enablers. Curse, threaten, release rage upon. Relish this. Send it, or don’t. I have written several since the last one I sent in 2004. I cut ties then, so I have not actually sent them, sometimes I save them, other times I burn them.

Breathe in your fears and anger and grief, then breathe out love, peace, and joy.

Make a vision board, this can be a piece of cardboard or something fancy. Collage about what you want your life to look like, to feel like, and to be like.

Create and use affirmations. Think of all the awful things you believe about yourself, such as I am crazy, I will never get over this, God hates me, etc. Then state the opposite in an affirmation.

Use My Affirmations if you like:

I am safe now.
I am sane.
I am able to relax.
I choose to soothe myself.
I am free.
I am creative.
I am passionate.
I am beautiful.
I am healthy.
I am fit.
I am capable.
I feel normal.
I feel compassion.
I feel love.

I break the cycle of abuse in my life.

My life is mine.

When you feel bad, do this. When you feel good, do it too!

Swing at the park. Ask your inner child to come out and play. Slide. Hang upside down on the monkey bars.

Open your windows and let nature infuse your home.

Even if you consciously want to heal, and are engaging in that process, ask yourself with some consistency, “Do I feel I deserve to heal deep in my heart?” You’ll be surprised at how that little one within might feel. Many times I heard a big “NO”.

Write poetry when you are in a panic. I don’t care if you are not a poet, write it anyway. Anyone can write.

Here is an example, called Sweet Relief.