“Not yet,” was the answer.
I was a little troubled by the idea that my friend was about to take a week long vacation with someone he hadn’t spent the entire evening with, much less the next morning. I thought of some of awkward situations you can run into on a vacation with someone.
“I don’t know, man,” I said, “I’m not so sure taking a vacation with her is a good idea.”
But his motivation for taking the trip was to see if it might spark something physically between the two of them. He said their relationship so far had been moving along nicely from an emotional perspective. They were getting to know each other and spending time together seemed pretty effortless.
“Have you talked about it?” I asked.
“Well not in so many words but we have messed around.” A typical ambiguous answer from a guy when he hasn’t had any luck yet.
“So are you at the junior high or high school level here or what?” I asked. “And I’m not talking about today’s high school rave generation who are sexual veterans compared to when we were in high school!”
“I guess you could say we’re at the high school level but you can tell that’s not going to last much longer,” he tells me with a confident smirk.
This got me thinking—do women and men have different expectations when it comes to sex and vacations? What was the female perspective on taking a vacation with someone you hadn’t slept with? I quizzed several women on their attitude toward the idea of a vacation with someone they hadn’t had sex with first, and the answers were varied. Surprisingly enough, they talked, and how!
Some of them said that sex would be a focus of the vacation for them, either out of anxiety or anticipation. Lorrie Carr, for example, a retail sales manager in New Jersey expressed her take on the dilemma by saying, “It can be difficult. How does a woman not become the slut but avoid seeming like the prude?” Lorrie has been married for three years to a man she dated for five years before getting married. Is she too far removed from the dating scene to have a realistic opinion?
