10 Tips for Wandering Women

By: Stephanie Elizondo Griest (View Profile)

 
6. Safety. As a general rule, pensions, homestays, bed and breakfasts, and hostels are more “women friendly” than hotels or motels. If that is all that’s available, abide by the following: use only a first initial when checking in. Request a room that is not on the main floor. Take the elevator instead of the stairs. And never leave your key where someone can see your room number.

 
7. What To Wear. Conforming to local gender roles/social customs can be a challenge sometimes. While foreign women might be forgiven or excused for pushing the limits of local dress codes, it is simply disrespectful to wear tank tops and shorts in conservative or religious societies. Also beware that many cultures take fashion seriously: my mud brown corduroys and hiking boots made me look and feel like an androgynous pauper in Eastern Europe, and my ripped jeans were crudely inappropriate. Flip through magazines and rent contemporary movies from your destination and pack accordingly.

 
8. Staying healthy. Parasites just love to hitch hike. Keep them away by avoiding the following, especially in the developing world: salads and other raw vegetables, unpasteurized products like milk and yogurt, iced drinks, cold meat and cheese platters in Soviet-era hotels (where it’s probably been sitting out for hours, if not days), and shell fish. When choosing a restaurant, check out the bathroom first: if the Board of Health would condemn it, the same probably goes for the kitchen. Give your body time to adjust to local spices before hitting the street stalls, and only patron the busiest ones when you do. If you wind up somewhere even remotely sketchy, go vegetarian—or at the very least, avoid chicken and fish, as it goes bad fast. If you do get sick, drink Sprite and monitor your stool. If it turns yellow, bloody, or has pus in it, get to a doctor—fast.

 
9. Tears Work. While I hate to recommend that women rely on their perceived fragility or weakness to get by, there really is something about a lonesome foreign woman crying that magically opens the doors, wallets, and hearts of the people of this planet. It is how I got all of my stolen documents replaced one miserable day in Turkey in record time, without penalty or rush fees. It is how my friend Daphne evaded costly traffic violations across Africa and literally stopped a departing airplane in Angola.

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posted: 09.09.2008
Margaret
Very informative, great tips. Thanks for sharing.
posted: 01.26.2008
Becky Reichel
The other safeguarding tip is hiding cash or travelers checks with the passport, or when in a private room (or any room I can access privately), use the screwdriver part of my Leatherman jackknife (something I would advise is a traveling ESSENTIAL) to take off an outlet or light switch faceplate and hide my cash, checks, jewelry safely in there.
posted: 01.26.2008
Becky Reichel
I don't appreciate the inauthenticity of the crying drama either. Here is a value tip from my own experience. Bring a laminated copy of the picture and data page of your passport on your travels. When in country, make a copy or two of the page with your entry visa or country stamp/date (and have that laminated or carry in plastic). Carry your actual passport as little as possible (only in between destinations) and be sure to secure it somewhere safe (I like Bank deposit boxes, hotel safes, placed into a plastic bag taped to the underside of furniture or buried where there is easy access and no chance of discovery or being washed away). The laminating your essential passport pages ensures preservation during long period of perspiration, from getting caught in downpours and soaked to the skin, from being lost or stolen. I have found that law enforcement, bankers, merchants and even lawyers or military will accept this laminated copy for transactions and ID.
posted: 12.03.2007
Wander Woman
Amanda said it best when she said travelling alone is as good as it gets. I found a curious local is much more likely to approach a person travelling solo than a group. I have had the priviledge of being invited into the homes of local families even without speaking their language. In Malaysia I was treated to the hospitality of a family who prepared a virtual feast including sampling of most of the local cuisine. The parents vacated their sleeping quarters for me and hung blankets to provide privacy. Their bathroom, a hole in the cement floor of a smal enclosure, featured the added luxury of footprints in the cement that placed one in the best position for hitting the target!
posted: 12.03.2007
Wander Woman
Thanks for offering your experiences as useful information for travellers and providing a site where we can exchange stories and learn from others' encounters. Another safe place in most parts of the world is the local place of worship. I have never been turned away from a church, synagogue or temple.
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