Bridging an Unbridgeable Gap at Work

By: Vince Thompson (View Profile)

Sometimes the fit between two managers is so skewed or so damaged by failed attempts at communication that the obstacles to contact seem insurmountable. In such cases, a third party may be able to help you gain needed perspective and work your negative emotions out of the way. He or she can serve as a bridge on the road to greater traction. If you find yourself in such a dilemma, consider looking for a third-party bridge. Sometimes an independent coach can play this role, as in the case of Rob and Sarah.

In other cases, the bridge can be a manager from another department that both parties like and trust, a conflict management counselor or consultant hired by the firm, or a smart and sensitive member of the company’s Human Resources department. The key is an open-minded attitude and a willingness to listen on the part of both individuals.

Most communication gaps are bridgeable. Sometimes all it takes is a fresh perspective and a new voice in the room to change the atmosphere from confrontation to cooperation.

An excerpt from Vince Thompson’s book, Ignited Managers Light up Your Company and Career for More Power, More Purpose, and More Success, which you can find on Amazon.com

 

 

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posted: 06.26.2007
Amanda Coggin
Thanks for your article. It reminds me of a training I went through at my old work community where we brought in a consultant to train us with communication tools. Simple ideas I remember were to use inclusive (rather than exclusive) language when communicating with others. For example, replace every 'but' with 'and'. As in: "I like your idea for this project, but I don't think it will work with our mission." replaced with, "I like your idea for this project, and I think if we took some more time with it to round it out, it will work better with our mission." It really works!
posted: 04.10.2007
Shannon Taylor
This article seems written just for me! My new boss just started in December and although I "get" the corporate strategy of what my boss is trying to accomplish (his explicit needs) it's much harder to understand the implicit needs not being communicated. "This excerpt from Vince Thompson's new book certainly intrigued me to buy this book so I could learn to have better interactions with my new boss an ultimately be more successful. Shannon Taylor (Business Planning Manager)
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