One caveat to all this: human beings operate with such different styles that it’s impossible for us to get along with all of our colleagues all of the time. You could be the most agreeable person on earth, but I guarantee that someone at work will find a reason not to like you. Maybe she isn’t blatantly obvious or malicious like Mr. Difficult, but you can feel her negativity just the same. She might walk right past your desk without saying good morning and probably doesn’t engage in friendly conversation with you the way she does with other people in the office.
For those of us with a sensitive streak, this type of behavior can be hurtful too. What did you do to her anyway? Why won’t she give you a fair shot? As natural as it is to fixate on the situation, if it’s not affecting your daily working life or your career path, refuse to take it personally and go about your business. Focus on your reasons for being at work and save your energy for the people in the office who deserve it.
Alexandra Levit worked for a Fortune 500 software company and an international public relations firm before starting Inspiration @Work, an independent career consulting business. She’s the author of They Don’t Teach Corporate in College: A Twenty-Something's Guide to the Business World.
